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Imagine asking a young woman if she wants her children to do poorly in school. Or to go to prison. Or to use drugs. Or to live in poverty.
It's a good bet more than 70 percent of women and girls would say they don't want that for their children.
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GOD BLESS AMERICA
Single parent?
It is a overused term like "moving forward."
An unmarried parent, either father or mother, by definition is single. Single parent.
What's so hard to figure out?
I am an expert on this subject. In my own mind at least. Because families pray together does not mean they stay together. Some families that stayed together have caused absolute "mental death" to their children that will go on for generations. Some families that divorced should have stayed together.
I am the product of a broken home. My Mother had two husbands and therefore; two batches of children. When I think back to my childhood days I can compare real facts. Some children had parents that never divorced. These children, in the majority of cases, have also continued to remain married to their original spouse. So divorces begat divorces, I agree with that fact. But is "staying together..no matter what" a good philosophy? Not always.
I have had a chance to talk to some of these children of "both original parents" after the fact. In some cases they had good, positive, loving, religious childhoods. NOT MANY. JUST SOME.
I have gathered this info over several years from friends and relatives. I would see old childhood friends and say, "I remember when we were small, I was so jealous because you had a Daddy. You will not believe the horrific stories some of these people have told me. Boys and girls who were raped by their Daddy. Mothers who knew it was going on, but allowed it to happen and told the children to "Never tell anyone." They do tell after the parents die. They hate their parents by then but cannot forgive themselves for hating them because the Bible says, Honor your Father and Mother.
Others tell me about being cursed, beaten, (especially by Step-Parents), insulted, slapped etc. It infuriates me to think about it.
Some who I thought, lived in castles in the sky, suffered childhoods of Hell. One first cousin told me that his Dad would wake him out of sleep at night to beat him when he was a child. The worst that I have suffered from my parents, was watching them fuss and fight. In retrospect, my Mother started as many as my Daddy did, and was actually strong enough to win most of the fights. Maybe that is why he left. From that point on, I had a very good childhood because my brother, Jim Tolley, gave his childhood away for my sister, Gail, and me. He was seven years old at the time. He is the best influence I have ever had EVER in my entire life. He has never given me bad advice. He took a broken little, scared three year old girl and turned me into a person with self-esteem. (He missed his calling, he should have been a Psychiatrist or have an advice column in the paper. He would put Ask Abbey to shame.) You bloggers may think I am mean as a snake, but I am a King snake. I am good for the people kingdom.
Back to the subject. In the majority of cases, you do not know who you are marrying. You know with whom you exchange vows but you do not know your future spouse. They may be even better than you thought they were. NOT! NEVER! WON'T HAPPEN! You may marry Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde will come home in his clothes one day. If so, get the HELL out. Don't use that sickening, over-used, excuse...."I stayed because of the kids." What did they do to deserve to be punished because you cannot admit you made a bad decision.
If you need advice, call me, I will call Jim and get back to you on it.
I am on my fourth husband, so I know what I am talking about. Given my life to do over, I would remarry three of the four...so trust me.
Two couples who I have known in my life who deserve to go to Heaven at the same time are Bill and Peggy Goldman and Tandy and Judy Turner.
One more beer and I am giving up the keyboard for the night. My pet chicken uses it at night. Her name is Henrietta but she doesn't blog fast, she just hunts and pecks.
I was talking to God a while ago, he said he does not even know anyone named DeathDoUsPart. So evidently, you are not in his Book of Life. You may need to call and get that corrected. He said that his Christians do not make judgments on others, because that is his job. You straighten up before DeathYouDoPart. I would hate for you to miss our fun in Heaven.
Bless you and your gene challenged friends.
I don't think God would hold it against anyone in danger from their spouse.
It's best for children to learn by example. Children watch their parents to see what's right. You show them by your actions what's right and wrong.
They don't need to see arguing and fighting. They don't need to hear one parent talk bad about the other, they are part of both. If you speak badly of your spouse it hurts the child (Children) also.
They have memories good and bad of both, and they don't need anyone to tell them bad things or talk bad about their Mom or Dad.
Sheila's comment about her childhood gives a good account on how much a child remembers.
The 10 commandments are a good start on what's wrong and right. I put my faith in God, he knows whats best.
You are goofy. Marriage requires less work than being single. The Ten Commandments are absolutely EASY to follow. I think a person must go out of their way not to follow them. Who wants to steal, kill, curse God, etc. Marriage is not mentioned in my Ten Commandments. But you sure need to take your preaching to Mexico, before they finish coveting everything else that their neighbor The United States has left.
You damn right they should close the borders, but only after they lasso all the Illegal Immigrants and take them HOME. I guess the part of your Bible that commands that you abide by The Law of the Land is missing in yours. I will never understand what part of "ILLEGAL immigrants" you people cannot understand.
Poor out of work Americans should get welfare in some cases. Poor Illegal Immigrants should get a free ride home and read about the Naturalization Process. No one has said Mexicans, Russians, Cubans, etc. cannot be here. You can support all of them you want to, but it should not come from my taxes that I have paid. You can relax, obummer will grant amnesty to all of them before 2012 so he can get some votes. Oh forget that, even his own party is sick of him.
Steal your next Bible from a higher class motel. One that covers the Law of the Land.
Our society is so sorry that murder will eventually become a misdemeanor, because proven murderers are a tax on the county money.
Jesus rocks!
Look at any cemetery. How many graven images do you see?
2“You shall not make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth; you shall not bow down to them nor serve them. For I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me, but showing mercy to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My Commandments."
Maybe we can decide if he should take both Christians back at the same time or make two trips, just for the fun of it.
let me guess you don't know who your daddy is...