When families break down

TO ALL YOU PEOPLE WHO TELL ME THAT I THINK I KNOW IT ALL. I DO IN THIS CASE:

I am an expert on this subject. In my own mind at least. Because families pray together does not mean they stay together. Some families that stayed together have caused absolute "mental death" to their children that will go on for generations. Some families that divorced should have stayed together.

I am the product of a broken home. My Mother had two husbands and therefore; two batches of children. When I think back to my childhood days I can compare real facts. Some children had parents that never divorced. These children, in the majority of cases, have also continued to remain married to their original spouse. So divorces begat divorces, I agree with that fact. But is "staying together..no matter what" a good philosophy? Not always.

I have had a chance to talk to some of these children of "both original parents" after the fact. In some cases they had good, positive, loving, religious childhoods. NOT MANY. JUST SOME.

I have gathered this info over several years from friends and relatives. I would see old childhood friends and say, "I remember when we were small, I was so jealous because you had a Daddy. You will not believe the horrific stories some of these people have told me. Boys and girls who were raped by their Daddy. Mothers who knew it was going on, but allowed it to happen and told the children to "Never tell anyone." They do tell after the parents die. They hate their parents by then but cannot forgive themselves for hating them because the Bible says, Honor your Father and Mother.

Others tell me about being cursed, beaten, (especially by Step-Parents), insulted, slapped etc. It infuriates me to think about it.

Some who I thought, lived in castles in the sky, suffered childhoods of Hell. One first cousin told me that his Dad would wake him out of sleep at night to beat him when he was a child. The worst that I have suffered from my parents, was watching them fuss and fight. In retrospect, my Mother started as many as my Daddy did, and was actually strong enough to win most of the fights. Maybe that is why he left. From that point on, I had a very good childhood because my brother, Jim Tolley, gave his childhood away for my sister, Gail, and me. He was seven years old at the time. He is the best influence I have ever had EVER in my entire life. He has never given me bad advice. He took a broken little, scared three year old girl and turned me into a person with self-esteem. (He missed his calling, he should have been a Psychiatrist or have an advice column in the paper. He would put Ask Abbey to shame.) You bloggers may think I am mean as a snake, but I am a King snake. I am good for the people kingdom.

Back to the subject. In the majority of cases, you do not know who you are marrying. You know with whom you exchange vows but you do not know your future spouse. They may be even better than you thought they were. NOT! NEVER! WON'T HAPPEN! You may marry Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde will come home in his clothes one day. If so, get the HELL out. Don't use that sickening, over-used, excuse...."I stayed because of the kids." What did they do to deserve to be punished because you cannot admit you made a bad decision.

If you need advice, call me, I will call Jim and get back to you on it.

I am on my fourth husband, so I know what I am talking about. Given my life to do over, I would remarry three of the four...so trust me.


Two couples who I have known in my life who deserve to go to Heaven at the same time are Bill and Peggy Goldman and Tandy and Judy Turner.

The Ten Commandments in my Bible say nothing about drinking beer. Have you stole another Bible from a cheap motel? Find a real Bible so you can quit leading people astray. Following the Ten Commandments is the easiest list of rules in the entire world to follow.

My marriages were not negative experiences.

I only borrowed them for a while. Your husband enjoyed me so much he proposed but I told him, No thanks.

Sure they are easy. If you commit adultery, you ask Jesus to forgive you. He forgives, remember. You will eventually end up with the husband that God meant for you to have. There is a reason for everything remember. If you kill somebody, it is better to do it in Barnesville. It may never be investigated and if it does, Milam will plea it down to jay walking.

That is right. The only reason Thou shalt not murder is a big deal to people, is that someone we love gets hurt. If you'll notice the first six commandments are about God.(Because when the commandment says to honor your Father and Mother I believe he means the TRIO and Mary, the Mother of Jesus)

Our society is so sorry that murder will eventually become a misdemeanor, because proven murderers are a tax on the county money.

Jesus rocks!

No he wouldn't. No one owns airspace and his followers will meet him in the air. BUT actually, everything belongs to God because he worked six hard days to build the world. Your house and body belong to him. You just borrow them for a while.

I would ask him to turn my ICE water into wine and we would sit down and have a nice, relaxed and friendly chat.

Maybe we can decide if he should take both Christians back at the same time or make two trips, just for the fun of it.

Yeah, I have shot birds at all of them on more than one occasion.